Both of my step children struggle in school and BM has made it a point to not do homework or missing assignments with them, befriended the school staff, joined school staff, and now teachers are allowing step children to complete missing work in school during other lessons (making them even more behind due to doing past work while new work is being taught…) to please BM. The school year is over soon and bm and I got into an argument at the beginning of the year due to failing grades and missing work and my husband and I were told to stay out of it because we were making her look bad (they live with her primarily during the school year). Fast forward to now, school is out in less than a month and we get a message from a teacher saying one of my step children is going backwards. They have EOGs coming and the kids have asked me to help them study because their mom will not. Do I or do I stay out of it? It’s important to note that they are in elementary school, failed EOGS last year and we requested for them to retake them and BM said no because stepdad said no. I am currently a college student and she openly mocks me to the kids saying college never did a thing for me and that I am not smart. I am tempted to let her eat every bit of it but I also am more concerned about the kids future and want them to do well. I have helped them get their grades up but when they go back to BM they stop doing homework and have missing assignments, 30s on tests, 40s & 50s on class work, and overall poor grades. I just don’t have the energy to continue picking up her slack because she doesn’t want the kids to follow in my footsteps and care about education.
Note: My husbands take it to let her pretty much dig her own hole since she quite literally does the opposite of what we say.