My (F25) boyfriend (M29) and I have been together 2years and we are very different people and ethnicities. He is a very quiet rational person who generally avoids crowds and I am quite social and come from a close big loud family.
We have had out issues witg communication mainly due to how we each express our self and love but we manage.
Last week was his birthday and for Sunday my sister invited us to her place with her husband and my cousin and she made him a surprise mini cake and candles to celebrate. It was wholesome and sweet, we spent the afternoon playing and of course my sister cousin and I were very loud and chatty. i admit even I was exhausted by the end.
The kicker is that when we left the first thing he said after i asked how it went was: “that was exhausting like why so much shouting” and then he was shut down the whole way and honestly I had a lump in my throat the whole time. When I told him my sister texted to say hi sorry i know it was too mich next time borrow my loops, his reaction was to tell me: “yeah i appreciate the effort but yeah no im not feeling too well, it’s just too much shouting”.
Am I crazy for feeling super hurt? My family was adorable and loving to him, and i feel like his answer was condescending a bit, or maybe his tone. Idk I’m losing it
Tl;dr: My boyfriend says ny family is too loud after they invited him to brunch and celebrated him, and I feel resentful about his condescending tone.