u/Comprehensive-Job243

I got 'lazy' and that I should be appreciative more of HIM (he made a social media post about Mother's day with me next to him and still somehow made it... all..about...him.... apparently I was 'ungrateful' for noticing). Currently a sorta sahm (I do some online stuff a little), with 6 pets, a 5 year old whose schedule is all on me (where we live, parental involvement expectations are a little insane) and I am at his beck and call all day everyday so that he can go out there and be the social and financial hero. I have a true professional designation and university degree before that. He doesnt... but he used to be a millionaire and I was just a 'pencil pusher' do apparently I should just shut up, serve, stick yo household stuff and somehow gind a way to use my (boring af) designation to impossibly make more money here in a foreign country -- tried, no dice, options-wise, while not missing a beat on my 'duties' .... yeeeah... me either....

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Was just 'informed' that he's talented and I am not. There are, of course, a gazillion levels to this, but that kind of absolutist statement... well, I guess it's the type there's no winning against, you understand? I mean, it's only really meant to put the other party on the defensive (if I'm being generous to myself) and so bring out our 'narcissistic' qualities to rail against it by signaling our own virtues etc. in complete futility... bc they don't actually care, to them... just saying that ahead of time means they already 'won' and we better know our 'lesser' place. In my particular situation, I'm very expressive and creative; I'm currently being publicly suppressed on our social media video platform (he started it, but for years we were there together) in favor of him alone. Mostly it's ok bc he's doing some specific business stuff (I have a high level business background too but not in sexy real estate lol sigh), apparently even mentioning the fact meant I needed to be put down and punished. One follower, about two weeks ago pm'd me to tell ne she didn't like the subtle ways he was trying to 'manage' and control me in the videos I did appear in with him. Go figure.
I post this bc so many people think verbal abuse has to be stuff like c or w word out of no where... but that's the easiest to ignore; when they attack your true insecurities, the stuff you COULD be proud of... or not..? The absolute subjective features, that is... well that's truly when the mess with your brain, make it damned near impossible NOT to doubt yourself. Is HE doubting himself right now? Maybe? Probably? But I'm foregoing dinner in the bedroom bc I'm apparently so talentless, he should he able to handle everything himself. And he's downstairs pissed off I didn't serve everybody (bc I'm being too 'immature' to do what I'm 'supposed to')
Oh, and I'm apparently not 'pretty enough' to make up for my low-talent failing.
(I'm in peri, going through the physical id cris that comes with that... )