Weird Grief-Induced Behavior
Hello, everyone. I just need to share this with people who understand. The most batshit crazy nonsense happened a couple nights ago and I’m still reeling from it.
So my wife has some strong covert narc tendencies. Her grandmother died on Monday. She had been terminally ill for a while. My wife had actually taken care of her for a bit because she loves being the quietly suffering hero, but that’s a whole other discussion.
Well, we get the news that evening and she cries for a bit. She’s sitting on the bed talking to me, and I’m just listening. She’s stopped crying by this point and feeling a bit better. She wants a hug, so I lean in to hug her and suddenly she grabs my ass and says, “You’re my property.”
I hate having my ass touched. I’m very ticklish and she knows this, but she did it anyway.
Very predictably, I freaked out. I squirmed away and yelled, “Don’t!” Apparently, I pushed her arm down hard as I did. I don’t remember because I was overwhelmed by the ticking sensation. It’s also possible she was exaggerating or straight up lying.
From the way she reacted, you’d think I’d just walked up and slapped her across the face. She’s rubbing her arm like it’s the worst pain in the world. Then she says, “I knew you were ticklish, but I didn't think you were THAT ticklish.”
Then she goes on and on about how I “screamed” the word “don’t” at her. I apologize because I just want to go to bed. Then finally she says, “I can’t deal with you and your shit right now.”
Yes, my shit of involuntarily reacting to negative stimuli. Sorry for my functioning nervous system. But the best part: she is also very ticklish and has hurt people by accident before when they tried to tickle her. She loves a double standard.
This isn’t even touching the “You’re my property” statement that came out of nowhere. Remember her grandmother had just died and she was crying not even 10 minutes before that.
Since it happened, I’ve just been thinking about all the other times she ignored my boundaries or acted like I belonged to her. It’s sad that I once thought belonging to someone was romantic. Now that kind of talk turns my stomach.
Of course she never once said she was sorry because obviously my reaction was inappropriate and not her touching me in a way I have said I don’t like.
I can’t wait until my exit plan is ready for execution.