pwBPD abruptly ending relationship
Before my ex with quiet BPD discarded me, we had been together for around 2 and a half years. I was her first real love, first date, first kiss, first Valentine’s, etc. Our last interaction was actually her wishing me a happy Valentine’s Day before she suddenly blocked me everywhere days later.
We originally broke up back in November because I was dealing with a lot of internal stress and became emotionally checked out. Around January, I genuinely tried to reconnect and make things work again. At the time, I had no real understanding of BPD or how much it can affect relationship dynamics. She was very cold and emotionally numb at first, but over time we slowly started reconnecting.
Our relationship had a lot of push-pull cycles and double standards. For example, I wasn’t allowed to have female friends, while she was talking to other guys and claimed she “wouldn’t care” if I did the same, even though that was always a boundary we both respected during the relationship.
What confuses me most is that right before the discard, we had one of the deepest conversations we’d had in a long time. We talked about accountability, our love for each other, the future, and it genuinely felt like we were finally moving in a healthier direction. Then a week later, I got ghosted and blocked. Looking back now, I’m pretty sure she had already emotionally checked out and was emotionally cheating/monkey-branching beforehand.
A week after discarding me, she publicly posted her rebound all over Instagram. That relationship only lasted about 3–4 weeks, but the whole thing still completely blindsided me because of how deep our bond felt for years beforehand.
Now we’ve been no contact for almost 3 months, and I still struggle trying to understand how someone who talked so deeply about love, commitment, and a future together could switch so suddenly.