sorry for the lengthy post in advance
My (19F) and (20M) boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. overall, we have a decent relationship and I have a very great relationship with everyone and his family for context me and his mother go on trips together go shopping go get her nails done and always have deep conversations. about halfway through our relationship his mother started acting distant towards me, but still fairly nice. I always wondered what it was about, but I just thought that I was overreacting ever since I first met his mother she has always brought up his exes which I was never too fond about, and I told her that I would rather not hear about his past since we’re in the future and to which she agreed, or so I thought. a couple weeks passed by and it seemed as our connection slowly faded and I would always have to initiate conversation I asked my boyfriend about it, and he said I was being dramatic and just overreacting. We started getting our relationship back and once again she started talking about all of his exes to which I didn’t bring it up again because I didn’t want to make it awkward and lose our connection again
FOR CONTEXT, his mother claims to hate his ex and she always talks dirty about her calling . Her crazy names says very disrespectful stuff about his ex and makes her out to be a terrible person. to which I sort of agree him and his ex were on and off for 7 1/2 years they got in trouble together did so much stuff together and once me and him gotten into this relationship, she tried to ruin it and she still blows up my phone to this day, calling me every name in the book and being very disrespectful towards me. it has definitely been tough, but so far I have managed to get through it. they ended from her cheating on him and destroying his car with a baseball bat and trashing his house.
Fast forward to today I got a text from my boyfriend‘s mom and it’s a screenshot of his ex texting her asking to go on a girls day and asking for advice in life. She sends me a screenshot and is calling her a whore and a bitch and someone who needs to rot in hell and his mother tells me that she will not respond. Two hours later she sends me another screenshot of her responding, very sweet and very nice and very polite and talking about how they might catch up now I cannot control what someone else does, but I can’t control control if I am involved in this family anymore. I do not like when the exes are brought up and I do not agree that his mother should be hanging out with his ex while claiming to hate her and saying that she is evil and needs to rotten in hell I talk to my boyfriend about this and he called me immature and tells me that I’m overreacting and it’s just something that I’m going to have to get over and he told me that he doesn’t care and I’m just being childish so Reddit AITA??