When I work out in the gym, I see some very attractive, well built, lean, but muscular tall men. I’m much too shy to approach and easily intimidated. But I noticed some of them will get in close proximity or closer proximity to me while I’m working out. As in walk over to a bench closer to me.
But I’m a shy girl. And I’m also nerdy. I had a bit of a glow up in the past year, but historically I’ve mostly been a bit more homely. And I have a very nerdy personality. When I show off my nerdy personality some people are put off by it nerdy boys aren’t but a lot of Neurotypical men are.
So when I see a cute guy in the gym and he approaches or gets closer to me, I’m kind of afraid and I suppress some of my authentic personality, which I shouldn’t I know now, because I’m afraid he will walk away from me.
It’s happened too many times in the past that when I had some guy is closer to me in the gym I don’t push too much faith in it. I just carry on with my workout. Unfortunately, however, is that I’ve been told by just carrying on with my workout the men I assume I’m not interested I don’t like them. I noticed them very much and I do think they are handsome. But I am afraid of showing my enthusiasm in any way that would make them run away.
What would you advise? Or maybe is it simply a matter of compatibility? I don’t feel this way around nerd dudes. Guys who are a little bit more conventional or average in appearance, but extremely nerdy and brilliant. Not to say that a handsome guy can’t be this way either, but generally, I feel more at ease around a slightly more average physical, build man, but with a nerdy personality! B