Since saying that I’m done with this marriage they have been the “perfect” partner and parent going on 4 weeks. They have also made sure to let everyone in our lives know this. They even started counselling, and have bullied me into attending a couples session. Now instead of the last 10 years of shit they’ve put me through, I am the problem. My unwillingness to try. My unwillingness to care anymore. My unwillingness to just suck it up, to forgive and forget for the kids.
This weekend they told me “I’m going to get a live in nanny if you leave, the kids will stay with me because it’s not fair for them to live in two households. Your priority is your own happiness, my priority is this family.”
It wasn’t even said like a threat but it was one. One comment to drive home that this is all me being selfish, to suggest I would abandon my children, and that the problem is me. They had the audacity to appear shocked when I lost it, “I thought you’d be happy about this, you have a lot of work on yourself to do- you need time to do that”. I feel like the last intact part of me broke and I don’t know if I’m strong enough to keep fighting or hoping that life could get better.