My husband of almost 10 years
I can provide endless amount of context.
Me F29 with two boys 5yo and 10mo and my husband M32. Whenever I share I’m married (for a long time now) people congratulate me.. Lol length of a marriage never equates to a good marriage. So many forgotten or unreciprocated holiday, birthday, anniversary, Mother’s Day gift or literally any semblance of effort.
I work outside of the house and he stays home with the baby bc he’s medically retired from the military. Yesterday he was upset I was washing our vehicles and the baby work up for the last 15 minutes of it. I washed our vehicles bc I wanted to go to church for Mother’s Day. Our cars were filthy and I didn’t get a chance to shower even after having to work on a Saturday. This morning I woke him at 9:21am so he could watch the baby while I finished showering.
Originally I had set up the baby in my bedroom with a pack and play with the bathroom door and view of me, baby was chill for a bit but then wanted more attention so I had to wake up my husband to get him. This upset my husband bc he later was rushing me asking how long I was going to take, that he didn’t feel good (he has a cold ffs) and I wasn’t being considerate. I finish up faster than I want and take the baby back while I’m fully nude and baby starts breastfeeding while I’m standing and my husband stays laying down on my side of the bed while I stand up breastfeeding. He’s just scrolling on his phone laughing at videos.. there was nothing that he needed to do or anything… I let this go on for 5-10 minutes and tell him you need to move. More attitude ensues and I’m just shutdown at this point, fighting begins around here can’t remember what exactly triggered it but it was definitely about me being inconsiderate.. I laugh it’s literally Mother’s Day and I had to ask for help to accomplish basic hygiene and was rushed for absolutely no reason but I’m being inconsiderate because he has a cold..
I bite back with okay you’re right I’m being inconsiderate I forgot it’s Mother’s Day, where’s my gift ?
He gets furious lol raises his voice telling me I knew you were going to say that and no I didn’t get you anything because I’m not feeling good and this is a one off..
-oh ? Okay ? Where’s my Valentine’s Day gift?
- see you’re impossible, you keep tally of everything I do and don’t do. You didn’t even say you wanted anything.. maybe a haircut or something i don’t know..
- yes I did mention a haircut but I couldn’t get to it so I trimmed my hair right before you started rushing me, and I gave you three options of gifts I wanted, I wanted all weather mats for my car.
- you never said that
-yes I did. I remember exactly when I told you. Anyways please move out of my way I need to finish getting ready
He begins yelling something I don’t know im literally tuning him out. Five minutes later he comes in the master bedroom again looking to change wants pants and a new shirt and then beelines it to my car that I washed yesterday, I see it from my bedroom he turns it on and is about to leave and I send him that message..
I see he turns off the car after he reads it.. but replies with he only came to the car to scream 🤣
I’ve become extremely callous to his antics, but anyway happy Mother’s Day to all you ladies.