How often should couples see each other?
We’re two 20-year-old gay guys. We usually hang out at my place or go out somewhere 1–2 times a week. For me, this has always been an issue and part of the reason my previous relationship ended.
Yesterday, he told me that a friend of his only sees her boyfriend once a week. I said I personally couldn’t maintain a relationship like that, and he replied that he wouldn’t have a problem with it.
I don’t think either of us is right or wrong — I think we just have different needs. But I’m wondering if I’m being too intense for wanting to see my partner 2–3 times a week.
We’ve talked about it several times, but I haven’t noticed much change. At the same time, I understand that we both have lives outside the relationship, friends, responsibilities, etc. Still, it makes me sad that this is such a recurring topic in my mind. I’ve even talked about it with my therapist.
What would you do in my situation?