we've been friends for some years now, more than a couple of years. mostly we hang out in the company of three, which is me (f28), him (m26) and my bestfriend (f26) who is also happened to be his bestfriend as well. all of us are pure platonical friends, who never even shared a kiss on the lips.
so, i think you should understand because of the title that i kinda fell for him. a lot. and it's not butterflyes in my stomache, it's a feeling that i've slowly developed with time.
we are close and can tell each other almost everything. we also discussed how none of us never got together. we asked him directly as a man, does he find us attractive? he said, that we're beautiful and great, but he considers us friends and that's exactly why he would never go for any of us. then, he made an example about his male friend from work, whom he admires as a person but nevertheless could not possibly fuck him (weird statement from a straight dude though, but okkk).
also i know that he's not lying about me being beautiful because when we first met he obviously was interested in me in a romantic way, but i had a crush on his friend back then, so it went into nothing quickly (it didn't work out with his friend, by the way).
that and some other things have made me thinking that it looks like he has madonna-wh*re complex. he doesn't view a respected person as a an object of romantic/sexual interest. i even asked him something like "so, you didn't consider your ex girlfriends people? they were more of a sexual object to you?" and he responded "yes, kinda it's more like fifty-fifty".
basically, i know that he cares about me as a friend, he values me as a person, he says i'm a goodlooking girl, we spend quality time together, etc. BUT he can't consider me as a choice. even though his love life is a constant disaster, he's just unlucky like that.
funny thing is that i really doubt that he doesn't see that we would make such a great couple in terms of compatibility, common interests and tastes, psychology, and even personal chemistry. we even had jokes about that. and yet here we are.
the obvious concern in that kind of situation would be also the fear of ruining our beautiful relationship. because i would never choose to lose him anyway. but my feelings are not fading or disappering. other men can't replace him in my heart either. i feel in a very stupid trap.
is it even possible to get with him? how??
by the way, i'm not a native english speaker, sorry for mistakes, i hope i presented my situation correctly