I (19F) feel disconnected from intimacy with my boyfriend (20M) after years together. How do we fix this?
My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning of our relationship we had a really good sex life, but over the last few years my libido has gone down a lot. I love him deeply and still find him attractive, but I just don’t feel like having sex as often as he does. He usually initiates, and sometimes it takes convincing for me to get into it, but once we do have sex I usually enjoy it. The issue is that this has become a constant argument between us. I try to improve things, but we always end up back at square one. I also wonder if past arguments and relationship problems have affected me more than I realized. Another issue is that when I didn’t want to have sex in the past, he would sometimes get upset or mad about it. I understand rejection can hurt, but over time I think that reaction started turning me off. Now whenever he brings up our sex life, I get irritated and sometimes even get the ick, which makes me feel guilty because I know he’s trying to communicate his needs. At the same time, it makes me feel like something is wrong with me or my body, and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.For people who have experienced something similar, how can I fix this?