ISFP ex claims they never liked me
I (ESTP) female, dated an ISFP female a little over a year, and broke up 2 years ago.
I have fully moved on, and I’m only posting this as my mutual who was closer to her recently told me that apparently she said she only dated me for clout. I don’t know what to make of it.
A little background information: Keep in mind we were in high-school. I had a crush on her for over a year and we were borderline okay friends, I confessed once and got rejected yet we remained friends. A few months later she confessed to me in real life and we started dating. Yet, I was too scared to make real-life contact - most of our contact was through text (even though we were in the same class). In the middle I initiated a break because I thought we were getting no where, yet she said she really wanted to get back together, and so we did. Then fast forward several months later she officially breaks up with me. I was really heartbroken – but we had a field trip the week after and we had to attend talk to each other, it was really the first time I talked to her in real-life for a long time. Yet she said this while we were boarding a bus “Imagine being gay, I can’t” right in front of my face, when we just dated for a year.
Back to what my mutual told me – I was genuinely shocked. I don’t believe it at all, did I really get played? I can’t tell if she did it to erase her shame in dating a girl or if she genuinely only dated me for clout… during our time together we texted regularly, showed affection through text and I just can’t believe she would say that.
Could you ISFPs help me understand what type of perspective you would have if you were this girl? I know you can’t read her mind and all but I just want a little insight into why she might’ve done that.