Son meeting affair partner
I know I will probably be told that I have no say in this, but I am struggling and need some advice. I’m due in 2 weeks with our second and my ex has been out of the house for almost 2 months now living with his affair partner (now girlfriend I’m sure). He’s barely shown up for our 3 year old son in these two months (5-6 times maybe?) but yesterday he had him for the whole day and I had asked if he could confirm that it would be just the two of them as our son deserves one on one time with dad. Well, he said yes but that night my son told me on his own, without me asking, that she was there. This is not the first instance of my ex lying to me, it’s been a long string of lies since this all started in January. I’m exhausted by them and sad for our son who is already trying to navigate why dad doesn’t live at home. Now dad is bringing new gf around, and probably not having proper discussions with him about what’s going on. I told my son it’s ok if he likes her and that all that matters is that she’s nice to him (putting on my big girl pants here), but holy crap the hurt is just insane. As if he didn’t already leave me while pregnant now I have to know they’re playing happy family with our son after I asked him not to and I’m about to give birth? Rub some more salt in the wound please.
Of course I want my son to be loved and see his dad and if she’s good to him that great, but how do I cope? He’s getting a place locally and will most likely have overnights soon and she’ll be there at times I’m sure….
If you were in a similar situation, how did you manage?
(And coparenting right now is used very lightly, I’m mostly parenting and he’s visiting but we will be hashing out a plan soon).