Hi, I’m Ann (she/her). I’m 28 and I’m hoping to find a genuine connection with someone who cares more about personality over looks.
I’m autistic and deal with severe social anxiety, and typical social settings like clubs, bars, or big parties aren’t really for me. I feel most comfortable staying indoors in calm, familiar spaces. I can be very socially anxious and awkward at first, but I’m very honest, kind, and open once I feel comfortable. It does take me a while to warm up, so patience means a lot to me.
*A Quick Note on Connection:
I’m looking for someone who values personality over looks. I don’t judge people based on appearance. I care more about emotional connection and getting to know who someone really is. I’ve been judged a lot for my looks, so I’d prefer to connect and talk first before sharing photos or meeting up. If looks are important to you in a relationship, please don’t reach out.
*My hobbies & Lifestyle:
I live a quiet, sober lifestyle. I don’t drink, smoke, or use drugs, and I’m also child-free. I prefer someone with a similar lifestyle, but I don’t mind if you drink or smoke as long as it’s responsibly.
Digital Art & OCs: I spend a lot of my time creating original characters (OCs) and building their stories. Once I feel safe with you, I can be quite chatty about my art!
Fictosexuality & Self-Shipping: I form strong emotional connections with fictional characters, and I’ve been self-shipping since my early childhood. It’s something that comforts me a lot. You don’t need to fully understand it, but I’d like a partner who is respectful and doesn’t judge.
My other interests: I really enjoy South Park, My Little Pony, and the band Metro Station. I have a playful, childlike sense of humor and like simple things, such as collecting Littlest Pet Shops and looking for little treasures at thrift stores/flea markets. I’m also emotionally mature and self-aware, though I can be sensitive and tend to overthink because of my anxiety.
*My Boundaries & Experience: I want to be very transparent about where I stand so we can start on the same page:
Experience & History: I am quite inexperienced when it comes to dating/relationships, and my past experience was unfortunately an unhealthy one where my boundaries were not respected. Because of this, I am very protective of my peace and need a partner who understands that I am learning as I go.
Asexuality: I am asexual and sex-repulsed. This is a firm boundary for me. I’m looking for an emotional romantic relationship, not a sexual one.
Patience is Key: I move VERY slowly.. I need a lot of time and a high level of emotional safety before I’m comfortable with physical affection like touch or cuddling.
Privacy matters a lot to me, so I like to build trust first before sharing photos. I don’t give out my phone number, and I’m also a private person online who isn’t very active on social media.
*Who I’m Hoping to Meet: I’m looking for a man (28+, preference for older) who is:
Relatable: I would prefer to connect with someone who is also autistic or struggles with social anxiety and awkwardness. It isn't a strict requirement, but I’d love to connect with someone who truly relates to my preference for staying indoors.
A Fellow Fan (or just open-minded): I’d love someone to bond over South Park with! If you don't like the show, that's totally okay too, as long as you're supportive of my interests.
Kind and Patient: Someone who won't try to fix or change me, but rather appreciates my kind and loving nature as I am.
Open-Minded: Someone who can handle me rambling about my characters and respects my identity without judgment.
*Location:
I’m from a small town in Ontario, Canada. I don’t drive, so local is ideal for meeting up, but I’m open to long-distance if there’s good communication and mutual effort. If it’s long-distance, I’d like to meet in person at some point. I’m also much more comfortable and talkative online than in person.
As for messages: I might not always respond immediately, as I sometimes need a little time depending on how overwhelmed or busy I am. I will reply, it just may not be instant.
If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you. Please tell me a bit about yourself and what part of my post stood out to you most!
~Thank you for reading. (: