Long post incoming, just want to give as much info as possible.
I’m currently a SAHM to a m2 and f9mo. I’ve been a STAHM since my first was born in April of ‘24. In that time I’ve nannied and also held down two WFH positions up until about a week ago when I realized WFH with 2 under 2 is insane without childcare.
A little context, my 2YO has a speech delay. He only really says “go,” and “yes” in context. He’s a smart kid and communicates by pointing, sounds, bringing us his bowl if he’s hungry etc. he’s also a PICKY eater, needs one of us to cuddle in bed with him for him to go to sleep (plus a “bottle” of milk for naps).
My 9 month old is what I would refer to as a magnet baby. It’s like a Velcro baby but much more intense 🫠 She still needs formula and also needs to be rocked/ held/ cuddled to take a nap, she absolutely needs it to be dark with a sound machine.
I’ve always been against daycare until my kids could speak and let me know if anything was happening to them, but at this point we are STRUGGLING without having two incomes. It’s just not doable, but neither is WFH with two kids and no help.
I was a teacher for 8 years before I had my son and, ideally, I’d like to go back to teaching. But, it pays very little, and we’d need to put the kids in daycare which is expensive and causes me deep anxiety.
What will they do if my kids won’t nap on their own? If my son throws a fit because no one can understand him? If he won’t share and had a meltdown? Will they kick them out if they cry for me all day? (I’ll probably take them out myself at that point because 😭).
I know daycares probably deal with this stuff frequently, but I have 0 experience with daycare as a child or as an adult.
Can someone who works in daycare or has / had kids in daycare let me know, will they be able to understand/ handle a speech delayed 2yo (feisty) little boy who’s majorly been at home with mom his whole life and a 9 month old magnet baby who screams if I leave the room at home? 🫠