Ex trying to push me to move on to someone new immediately, anyone else experienced this?
(Before I start I'm just looking to understand what is going on rather than looking for 'block and move on' advice, the situation I'm in it's not an safe option to do just yet, hopefully that's understandable)
Is this anything anyone else has experienced? We've been broken up only a few days (I ended things due to the extreme control and feeling entitled to all my energy and time), and it's a constant conversation of me moving on or hooking up with someone immediately, almost multiple times a day, I've shared that it's a highly uncomfortable topic and that they should know me better.
For context, I'm someone who develops feelings very, very slowly and am also very averse to and jumpy of physical contact, I don't have any 'love at first sight' experiences. Also I'm really not in a place mentally for any new relationships, I just want to work on myself and my independence and enjoy being free of expectation.
They've slipped up and said it would be helpful to them to move on, but even that is hard to understand, to me someone moving on and jumping to a new person or a hookup in a few days seems disrespectful and especially if it is out of character for them would be concerning right? Certainly not a healthy action to root for?
They've always been highly controlling (to the point of it sounding like they're talking to a clumsy incapable child) under the guise of love and caring about me, which I imagine is nothing new to anyone here, so is this another control thing and trying to push me to do as they say? Or is it to trick me and make me look like an awful person?