u/CollectionDue7948

I am posting from a throwaway account due to obvious reasons.

My husband and I have been together for 16 years and married for over 10. I am not sure what has recently happened but my sex drive has increased lately but my husband just isn’t/can’t give me what I want.

I have tried talking to him asking him to be assertive and dominant in the bedroom but I just don’t think he can.

I am starting to look elsewhere (I’ve not acted on anything) and fantasising.

I don’t know what to do as I do love him dearly but I just want more.

We’ve never had sex a lot, but I know he does want it more same as me.

I just feel a bit lost and would rather sort myself out than feel unsatisfied with him.

I’m so conflicted and confused!