I need help with an ex-situation-ship. Two years ago I lived in a different state, and now I’m living back home. I am a 24M and the ex is around 27M, I forgot his age, but older than me.
I met him through Bumble, and I wanted to meet new people in my area at the time. We hung out pretty often for the first few months since moving in.
Over time I started to pick up on things he was doing that I wasn’t on board with.
In one instance, I was talking to him about someone that I was in a past relationship with, and I wanted to reserve some of the details during the conversation. And, he didn’t like that, he grew frustrated and wanted me to tell him more than what I was comfortable with.
In another instance, we were driving and I was sharing some things with him that I was not comfortable with him doing. For example, he would tell me what my feelings were in a situation and how it relayed out. At that moment, I spoke up and told him that “you can never tell me what my feelings are, that’s not your responsibility, that’s something that’s mine, and you can’t tell me how I’m feeling about something.” He was understanding of it and I’m glad i told him.
He wanted to rush into a relationship, and treated our friendship like a relationship when I never agreed to it. He would treat the friendship like a relationship when it wasn’t. He would call while I was working once or twice a day. And got frustrated when I didn’t call back or text promptly. At that point, I told him, “friends don’t do this, they don’t call or text this much.” I later told him that I don’t want to be friends anymore and I don’t want to continue whatever we were. I blocked his social media platforms.
Over time, once a month for a few months, he would leave long voicemails sharing how he is doing and leaving open ended questions to me and hoping things are well, and leaving signs of guilt tripping. I blocked his number at that point.
Fast forward to now, it’s been two years, I got a new phone, and I no longer live where he is at.
He is in the Army and is deployed every so often.
About 6 months ago, I received a random add on Snapchat, and I never add people on snap unless I know them. But I added the user back because the photo on the profile was me. It wasn’t completely my face, but enough to know.
I messaged the user back to gather information before sharing my thoughts on the photo. The user sent back photos of who they were, and I knew immediately who it was. It was the guy that I talked to two years ago. In the moment, I sent him a picture of the shirt, the necklace, and the location the photo was taken back to him and accused him of sharing a photo of me that is not who he is.
In his response, he said he was tired of people doing that and he doesn’t do that, and got super defensive. He said “I’m going to take the profile picture down because I’ve had this happen before and I can’t handle this anymore with people sharing my photos.” In the moment I told him he needs help, and he needs to stop using my photo. I blocked the user and moved on.
Fast forward to today, I received a text message that said this
“Happened again and I'm deployed rn so.... Is that you from a new fake account reaching out? If so, sorry I blocked it. 🙃”
Since I got a new phone the blocked caller didn’t transfer over. How do I go about this?
I genuinely do not want to answer back and it’s giving me unneeded anxiety. I haven’t talked to him in ages long time, and I haven’t a feeling he is trying for me to connect back with him and trying to lure the conversation back.