u/Cold_Nectarine95

my husband 33 M and I 30 F have been married for almost 5 years. We just had our second baby and he has been annoyed that she cries too much and claims she cried more than our almost 2 year old. I was a little upset that he was annoyed with our newborn and it seemed like he didn’t want to interact with her too much. I have been feeling a little burnt out because our 2 year old prefers me so I handle her bedtime, etc. i am exclusively breastfeeding the baby as well so don’t get time to myself between mothering two children while on leave. let me be clear, I do this happily and love my children more than anything and love being a mom. my husband went back to work after 2 weeks. he said he was sorry for feeling annoyed with the baby and has since said we should have another kid eventually. I have been co sleeping with the baby and since I was cleared for exercise and sex I have been trying to fill my husbands needs even though my libido is not there and I just don’t feel like myself and am honestly not really interested in sex right now. I was side laying in bed and feeding the baby when he got annoyed and said good night and that he doesn’t want another kid and that he doesn’t like anything about the baby phase and said it is for selfish reasons. I feel really sad for him that he literally said he feels “indifferent“ about the baby and I feel sad and hurt for myself and my baby that he doesn’t seem to give a shit. I don’t get any time to myself and he goes to work and comes home and works out or does stuff around the house and showers by himself, etc and doesn’t even bother to try and manage both kids for me to workout for 30 minutes. he is making me resent him and I don’t know what to do….?!