u/Cold_Hornet_646

So I am asian and I eat mostly asian foods but my bf doesn't seem to like anything I make. It has to be cooked a very specific way, and it's really starting to get to me.

His food must have meat as the main star of the meal, and then secondary to it can be the sides and vegetables.

I've tried making asian dishes for him but he hasn't liked any of them, and I had to give up that part of my culture because it was too hard trying to make 2 different meals for 2 different people all 7 days a week.

I've tried a western format with asian sides but he doesn't like anything that is asian.

He can't eat noodles (my favorite), rice, any kind of grains (our food bill gets so expensive now), and he refuses to eat any meal if it doesn't have meat.

I'm a vegetarian, and I try not to eat super greasy foods or dairy because it upsets my stomach. Some of the only foods my bf can eat are foods that I really can't eat a whole lot of, or don't like (chicken pasta, mac and cheese, etc). While I'm okay cooking these for him, sometimes he jsut takes one bite and decides he doesn't like it and goes to get takeout instead. It's really frustrating because I spend so much money a time making the food for him only for it to get wasted.

And the worst part is he can't eat the same food for more then 2 days in a row and doesn't like it unless it is fresh so freezing it is not an option. Sometimes he even takes my instant ramen packets, makes one, takes a bite, decides he doesnt like it and throws it away.

I also know it's not a fault of my cooking because everybody else likes it, I've even won awards for it, it's just his very particular pallet.

It's getting especially annoying because I count my calories and I don't want to waste food but my bf keeps throwing food out that he doesn't totally like. It also is getting super pricey but I cant just let him starve.

Tldr; my bf doesn't like my food, and only wants foods I can't eat, and it's driving me nuts.

Hi everybody! I am really struggling with the idea of getting a PhD, and I want some thoughts from other PhD students.

I'm currently finishing out my undergrad and masters at a good university, and I will also be guaranteed a job offer with a minimum pay of 80k a year out of college due to my internships. I'm also estimated to have about 20k-30k in debt both private loans and fafsa loans. My parents are paying for my interest while I'm in college, but I'm under the assumption that I will need to cover it once I graduate.

I currently don't feel that I am going to need my PhD. I hate research, and I hate writing and reading essays (I would be going into my PhD for Robotics or Mechanical Engineering). I have also been struggling a lot with my mental health due to the workload and difficulty of undergrad. I have the grades necessary to pursue it if I wanted to, but I also know I will end up with about 100k dollars in debt. My parents believe getting a PhD is easy if I put my mind to it, and the debt and difficulty is just an excuse.

Another problem I face, I realized if I pursue my PhD, I will likely graduate in 6-8 years (I know it can be accelerated but I know myself). After graduation, I will likely be close to my 30s. I know for a lot of people that time would be worth it, especially if they enjoy it, but for me it feels like almost a waste. I know i want to work in industry, and I know some phd students typically make a lot of money and have a higher ceiling pay, but it feels unnecessary to make up to the higher ceiling pay. I have considered going into industry first and then trying to get my phd, but my parents forbade me from going through with that route.

Tldr: My parents want me to get a PhD and will pay for accumulated interest until I get out of college, but I hate research.

For PhD students:

\- Out of graduation, what was your starting pay if you did not pursue academia (engineer majors)

\- If there is a pay bump, was it worth the effort?

\- How difficult is it to pay off the debt?

\- If I decided to pursue my PhD many years after my undergrad, would it be worth it? Is it possible to get one if my company pays for me to do part time school?

\- For people with similar experiences with parents like mine, do you have any advice?