i’m a cis straight girl with many friends in the trans and queer community. while i’m an ally through and through, i genuinely couldn’t give less of a fuck about someone’s sexuality or what their genitalia looks like. not in a dismissive way, but in a “it’s really none of my business and it doesn’t matter to me” kind of way.
i just see my friends as my friends, that’s all. and i hate the idea of someone feeling like they have to explain their life to me or that i might judge them. i know that someone coming out isn’t about me, but i never know what to say! i’ve typically tried to use it as a way to see if i done or said anything harmful, or ways i could support them better, but is that correct??
like how do i politely let someone know “im glad you felt safe enough to tell me but respectfully i don’t care”. and am i wrong for feeling that way??