Just for fun discussion. Obviously neither is realistic but which two generations do you see overlapping more that could allow for something like this?
She’s a micro influencer who lives in the same town as me. I’ve had a few run ins with her in the past. They weren’t pleasant interactions, my takeaways are that she’s fake and a bit of mean girl, but I won’t judge her too harshly because I think she’s very naive and living beyond her means.
She is 23 and her husband is a year younger. They got married super young and she’s currently pregnant with their fourth in four years. They had their first daughter last July. Everyone knew she wanted a girl, she didn’t hide her disappointment much when the first two were boys. I had assumed they’d at the very least take a break since she got her girl but apparently not. She’s due with #4 in July so got pregnant just three months after giving birth.
Anyone else here know who she is or have any interactions with her? I really do feel for her in some ways and hope it all works out. She seemed more genuine when she first started out but has transformed into this weird tradwife aesthetic and I’ve also heard she is now very judgmental to those who don’t want to join her in that lifestyle. She apparently cut off a longtime friend because the friend is unmarried (at just 23 mind you), drinks alcohol, and goes to music festivals. Taylor didn’t want to be associated with that.
Her account is @thetaymagruder. She’s a micro influencer who lives in the same town as me. I’ve had a few run ins with her in the past. They weren’t pleasant interactions, my takeaways are that she’s fake and a bit of mean girl, but I won’t judge her too harshly because I think she’s very naive and living beyond her means.
She is 23 and her husband is a year younger. They got married super young and she’s currently pregnant with their fourth in four years. They had their first daughter last July. Everyone knew she wanted a girl, she didn’t hide her disappointment much when the first two were boys. I had assumed they’d at the very least take a break since she got her girl but apparently not. She’s due with #4 in July so got pregnant just three months after giving birth.
Anyone else here know who she is or have any interactions with her? I really do feel for her in some ways and hope it all works out. She seemed more genuine when she first started out but has transformed into this weird tradwife aesthetic and I’ve also heard she is now very judgmental to those who don’t want to join her in that lifestyle. She apparently cut off a longtime friend because the friend is unmarried (at just 23 mind you), drinks alcohol, and goes to music festivals. Taylor didn’t want to be associated with that.
I posted here a few weeks back seeking advice about my situation. As someone on the spectrum myself, I wanted to hear from people who could relate to me more and perhaps even see things in a similar light as myself. I didn’t get too many replies so figured I’d give it another try with a major update on the situation for those who did read it.
If this is the first time you are reading this - that is not a typo. My mother married someone who’s a year older than me. He was born in January of ‘97 and myself in March of ‘98. She’s a professor and he was her student during his freshman year and quickly became one of her favorite students. After he completed her class, their relationship quickly turned into a romance. They married in the fall of 2017, I reluctantly attended to support my mother. Shortly after the wedding, she became pregnant. They have miraculously welcomed several daughters since despite her age.
He comes from a privileged family. He’s also a very intelligent individual. Two things that are clearly a recipe for a very successful life - which he already has before 30. He is already working as a VP at his family’s financial institution. After his father, he is next in line to run the entire business. I have no problem acknowledging his success and applaud him for his hard work. However, he has made it his duty to notify my mother of his concerns about my own life. She would never admit it, but based on comments she’s made and changes in her personality since hooking up with him, he has basically told her to stop supporting me financially and to let me suffer the consequences of working a ‘dead end job’. College quite simply wasn’t for me and I work in the maintenance department for a medical center.
I had a incredibly strong bond with my mother before he came along. My dad walked out of the picture when I was 18 months old and it had always been just the two of us. Despite my struggles, she has always been the most amazing, loving, caring, and supportive caretaker I could have ever asked for. She never dated and made it her full time job (along with teaching) to provide the best care and to protect me. I knew she would eventually meet a guy and I truly wanted that for her. I just can’t accept this guy and what he’s done. I really try to look at the positives. I adore my little half sisters, they are adorable and clearly make my mom happy. She always wanted a daughter and I’m happy she was able to get her wish at this point in her life. Asides from that though, I’m honestly heartbroken.
A few weeks back, we got into an argument on the phone pertaining this issue. I finally brought up my concerns about him and told her how I honestly felt about him. She immediately jumped to his defense and essentially told me that she will always side with him because he’s her husband and cares for her more than anyone ever has. She confirmed many of my suspicions about him saying things behind my back and instead of standing up for me, she defended what he said in a very subtle way. My mother had made it clear she sided with her husband over me.
After the call, I found myself in a deep depression and extremely anxious because my mom was always my go to person. I have a stable job and am currently renting a room from someone but if something terrible were to happen, I don’t know what I would do. I don’t have many friends and the few I do are also renting rooms or one bedroom apartments so I would have nowhere to go should something happen to my job.
Now to the update…
My mother and I hadn’t spoke since that call. Five weeks have gone by, easily the longest we had gone without talking. Last evening, my phone started ringing. It was her. I immediately answered and felt a sense of relief. I figured she was going to apologize for what was said and we would be able to start the reconciliation process. Instead, my mother announced her pregnancy to me. She told me that she missed me and looked forward to seeing me for her birthday celebration next month, making no attempt to take any blame in all of the drama.
I was cordial and congratulated her, telling her that I have been busy with work (which isn’t a lie) and that I would call her to set up something soon. She told me she loved me, I reciprocated, and the call was over. I am still feeling devastated. These past few weeks have been pure agony for me. I figured my mother had finally come around and was ready to, at the absolute least, hear my side of things a bit more. Instead, nothing. I don’t even know where to go from here. I don’t know if I can just go on as if everything is fine. At the same time, I don’t want to come off as a dick. Further advice would be greatly appreciated.