Hey everyone,
I (29F) dated someone (35M) 7 months ago for a month and a half. I have been thinking heavily about this guy for the past 7 months. I broke things off with him because I had a one night stand with a family friend of his (like his parents and this guy’s parents are serious friends) 4 years ago and I was too afraid to continue the relationship without telling him about this. I also noticed certain qualities of him that were cause for concern but fundamentally I really liked him, being with him I felt…peaceful. There isn’t another way to describe it.
All this to say is that I went on other dates but still kept thinking about him. He tried to follow me on Instagram one month ago but I declined the invite because I still felt scared. I ran into him 3 weeks ago but he was on the phone and kept walking when we saw each other (he was going up an escalator I was going down). For the past three weeks I’ve been spiralling because I’m still not sure if reaching out is the best solution.
Ultimately what I am scared about is feeling judged by societal double standard and feeling ashamed for my past decisions even if the only person I hurt with those decisions was myself.
Do you guys think reaching out after this long is worth it?