u/CognizantCandle

I'll start by saying that I've worked in healthcare as a tech/CNA (emergency department and medsurge) for 2.5 years now. I'm almost 22 and I'm realizing that I need some kind of college education and I do not think nursing or associated fields are for me. I actually love working three 12's each week (though as a tech, I end up working well above that as it's not enough money), but I cannot stand patients anymore, not to mention all the stuff healthcare workers have to deal with; the dying and the dead, more blood and bodily fluids than anyone should have to. I've seen the most depressing things. I've also been yelled at, kicked and hit at, etc and I really can't do this for my entire career. I'm so burnt out from working with patients.

I've had an interest in programming, networking, operating systems, and hardware since I was about thirteen but have not pursued it beyond learning Linux distros, basic networking/web hosting, and dabbling in programming.

I'm connected to my router and she is connected to her phone's hotspot. I'm able to find matches online but she isn't able to get anything though she is connected. Any idea as to what we can do?

My partner works six days a week and deals with constant criticism on her work, yelling by her previous boss, and negativity all for minimum wage in her country. She's been putting up with this for several years and is very determined and hardworking. I know her job and her accomplishments there are a sense of pride for her, though I can tell she is immensely stressed when she is working; I notice the difference when talking to her on her single day off and when she arrives home after each workday (very happy and generally relaxed). We're long distance so I'm not sure what I can really do to help. I've tried encouraging her to seek out other jobs, to resign and rest, etc. I've offered to pay for some or all of her expenses while she rests and or finds another job, but I always feel like I get ignored when I've offered. She thanks me for the concern and then nothing ever happens. Her living expenses per month are what I get in 1-2 days of work and I would be so happy to help her if it meant she can find something else or have time for hobbies. She just tells me that she will let me know (yet she has not), all the while complaining about how she wants rest and how tiring it is. I've talked with her before about this and she tells me she only wants verbal support and words of encouragement.. I try that but at the same time, pretending everything is fine does not solve the problem of remaining in that environment with no long term goal or plan to switch jobs. I've been contemplating about asking for advice for half a year now and I'd like some advice on how I might go about helping her.