My friends say slurs ??
I am entering a new friend group and it’s a mix of straight and queer people. Me and two of my new friends were walking around town and someone driving past us called us the f slur. After that we met up with the rest of the group and we were explaining what happened and some were saying the whole word out loud and not censoring themselves. While I don’t feel uncomfortable when another queer or gay person says it, I get icky feelings when straight people do. I explained that and it stated a little debate about it and I’m wondering if I’m maybe over thinking it? I’ve never really been one to say it/ any slurs just because it makes me feel icky, even when relaying a situation like the one that just happened. I understand taking the power back but I feel saying it, especially if you’re straight is unnecessary ?? I don’t think it comes from a bad place when they say it but they’re definitely the type of people to also throw out the r slur every once in a while which also makes me feel uncomfortable. Some people feel entitled to say it because it’s been normalized in the group and some have been bullied in the past for looking or acting “gay” so they feel they can say it. I guess my question is, am I valid in feeling uncomfortable and how do I explain why it’s not okay?