Those who were cheated on, did you keep it to yourself?
I'm not talking about telling the kids - that's probably a no. I'm also not talking about tell my close friends and relatives - that's a yes.
But there are a bunch of people who are more like mutual friends/acquittances. People who I will continue to see going forward, although not frequently. And if my ex, after having cheated on me, is just telling them that we're divorcing because we just "grew apart", then I'm supposed to just play along?
And if they see me in a bad mood I guess they just assume that I'm bitter because I didn't want to accept the fact that we grew apart. These aren't people I care deeply about, but it's still something I have trouble accepting. Some of these people are parents of our kids' friends. So total avoidance isn't an option.
But the alternative isn't much better. I don't want to be that psycho who spray paints CHEATER on her car. It seems I'm just forced to shake hands and smile and play along. Is this more or less what you do?