u/CoconutDrPepperFiend

TW ABUSE AND FEMICIDE:

My husband and I just found out we'll be having our first baby, and one little comment he made has healed SO much of my inner child.

For context, I'm the product of a previous abusive marriage my mother was in, in a less developed country I probably would've been a victim of femicide, because my shitbag bio father did NOT want a daughter, only sons. Enough so that when he found out my mother was having a girl (me!) he started beating her regularly and almost killed her in front of me on several occasions, also caused her to go into premature labour and have me early with many health issues that nearly resulted in both of us dying during birth.

My husband upon finding out we were having a baby, after the initial panicking both of us did over an unexpected pregnancy (we're both early 20s) says, "I hope we have a little girl, I want a daughter so bad!".

When I tell you guys I almost started sobbing, I'm so excited to have a baby with this man.

Help! So ants have gotten into my crabitat and appear to have started a colony in there, I've already torn down the crabitat and wholly restarted it once after they killed one of my molting crabs. :( Now I have another crab I know for sure is molting and idk what to do. Should I tear everything out and just isolate the molting baby, or leave him, I'm at a loss and I'm so so worried about him.

For context I don't leave food out, I keep the tank at the reccommended humidity and temps, the ants just seem to appear every single spring/summer because I live in an old house. But this is my first (proper) rodeo with crabbies so I'm so beyond frustrated and worried.

I also know for a fact they're odorous house ants.