u/CockroachStriking662

I (31F) am married to a 37M since 2020. He has constantly had bad mental health since the beginning. He has improved over the years but I don’t think the speed will match up. It was so bad previously that I went to a hotel on my bday in 2023 due to a fight. I asked him to visit me but he didn’t. And as Im typing this I am realizing that nobody deserves to be alone on their birthday. Or maybe Im being entitled. Am I?
Initially I tried giving him the benefit of doubt. I gave him space, I was kind. But over the years it feels like I have run out of patience. I got a dog last year. Husband was totally against it he felt replaced. I begged to keep the dog as my emotional needs were probably not being met and he was my lifeline. We don’t sleep together in the same room. Sex is like once a month. We don’t do trips, no dates. The only thing we do together is watch tv, do groceries. Something has died in our relationship and in me. Am I overthinking this? I want separation. Since Ive run out of patience I have become very rude to him. I want him to fix his shit so we can have a normal life. I think it’s unfair of me to do that to another person. I will not do that to another person and i can’t do this to myself by staying anymore when my needs aren’t being met. Help.