u/Cnstars

So me and the wife have been on SLS for about a month, discussing things, checking out profiles, even chatted with a few couples. I know it’s really early on in our journey, but we’re definitely having a hard time finding a couple to be interested in, let alone to meet up with. Either there’s no response or ghosting after a couple of messages, even after asking if we’d be interested in meeting for drinks.

We’re not the most attractive couple by any means, but we’re definitely not as bad looking as some of the couples we’ve seen ha. Granted I don’t put a lot of stock in profile pics as they don’t do some ppl much justice to how they look in real life. But my wife is definitely having a hard time finding attractive males. She is straight and and neither of us are bi curious so the females don’t interest her either.

Is any of this common or are there suggestions from the seasoned vets, on where else to look? I know clubs are an option but I don’t know if we’re there yet with the closest one being like an hour or so away. Thanks in advance!

As the title insinuates I(M40) and my wife (40F) have recently sat down and started discussing this as a possible option. I’ve been looking at some posts, experiences, questions that have been answered but for the sake of really just wanting some recent feedback back of our own, I hope this post will be spared and not marked as low effort. We are a long time married couple, 16 yrs, from Tn and honestly are not sure where to really start around this area. We assume other couples are into this but with the so called Bible thumpers around here it’s still not something that’s very open ya know? Some things we’d love to hear about are listed below:

Did you find it easier to go full swap starting out or did you ease into it?

Do you find it more enjoyable to swap with couples or do you tend to swing on your own without your partner?

Best options for finding couples: apps, sites, subreddits? Especially anything around the southeast Tn area

What are some fun rules and boundaries that you feel really helped make things more enjoyable for the both you?

I understand that most if not all of the answers to these will be things that we have to sort out for ourselves as a couple but like I said I’m really looking for interactions and feedback on ideas that could really get us going in the right directions. Thanks in advance!