I never had a lot of friends or was super social. I actually always struggled to make and keep friends but in the past 4 years it got worse. I decided to cut out people of my life because of attitudes that made me feel really uncomfortable. I think that those people become jealous. I am not really sure.
It is always a female friend. I noticed 3 things that they often do:
- Try to make me feel self-conscious: they often make comments about my physical appearance in a negative way. Here a few examples: « have you always dressed in such an eccentric way? » (I don’t dress in an eccentric way. I mostly wear cotton basic and often black, grey or white). « You are always wearing the same f*** clothes », « you are so covered »(followed by an eye roll).
- They act annoyed for no reason. We would be talking and they would start acting annoyed so I started being more observant. I noticed it always happened when I would talk about my special interests or explain something to them. One of them once told me, « I know you think you are smarter than me ». It is actually not the case. I don’t think I am smarter than anyone. I love to read and I love history so I have a lot of information that I like to share with people.
- They try to infantilise me. For example, they would treat me like I am extremely naive and don’t understand anything about « human nature ». I might struggle with social interactions but I have great pattern recognition and tend to be very observant so I notice the smallest changes and analyse it.
Those people are not a group of friend. I did cut out 2 ouf of my life and the 3rd is becoming very difficult to manage. She is increasing aggressive with me. She compares herself to me all the time. The other day she got offended because I have a master degree and not her. I think it is so stupid. Those people are also the ones pursuing the friendship. They often complain if I am not involved or ask me if I am mad at them.
Do you think it is jealousy?