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**Hello everyone**
**( I 20 female, fiance 22 male we have been together for 2 years and a half)**
**I’m in a very difficult situation, and I really need your help or some perspective.**
**For several months, I have been in no-contact with my mother, sister, grandmother, and father, due to serious childhood trauma. My mother does not take accountability, and I had to protect myself. Last week, my father reached out, asking to have a meal with me at his place, just the two of us. He even sent a video to show no one else was there. I thought about it a lot, because I knew it would be hard, but I felt a deep need to have this conversation with him to heal.**
**My fiancé, who has already experienced tension with my father, strongly disagreed. He reacted with a lot of anger, saying my father always abandoned me, insulted him too, and that he was furious with this decision. That evening, he drank, said horrible things, compared me to other women, and told me I wasn’t good enough for him. Then he cried, apologized, said I was the only one who truly loved him, but the next morning, he acted as if nothing happened. He doesn’t understand why I can’t hug him, why I can’t say I love him. He even got angry that morning, shouting that I didn’t love him, that he needed to know I wouldn’t leave him. He made me promise not to see my father, saying if I did, he would want me to leave, but I have nowhere else to go, since my father lives in a tiny apartment, and I refuse to go back to my mother, who is narcissistic and cruel. The only other option would be to sleep on the street, and he knows that.**
**I am lost. I don’t know what to do. I feel isolated, depressed, and I don’t want to make a decision that puts me in even more danger. How do I set boundaries? How do I move forward without losing everything I’ve built or ending up on the street?**
**Thank you for reading, and if you have any advice, I’m listening.**
Also after some comments advising me to do an emergency fund I created a gofundme!
So if you’re willing to donate or just share it, it would really help a lot since I can’t go to the women’s shelter because I have two cats…
Thank you for reading this through
TL;DR
I cut off my family because of years of abuse, neglect, and being dismissed when I spoke about what happened to me. I’ve struggled with my mental health for a long time, and I’ve been trying to rebuild my life on my own.
Recently, my father reached out, and part of me just wants closure. But when I told my fiancé, everything escalated. He insulted me, broke me down, then apologized like nothing happened. Now he’s forcing me to choose: if I see my father, I lose my home.
The truth is, I have nowhere else to go. He knows that.
I feel trapped, isolated, and honestly scared of what happens next.