Hi,
So i‘m an introvert and I want to be an extrovert but since that‘s not possible to change from intovert to extrovert, I want to be ‚more comfortable‘ around people. So i‘m a quiet guy and if there are more then like 2-3 people, I just can‘t talk loud. Only in class like sometimes when the teacher speaks with me. If I want to ask a question in class with like 20 other studens, I get uncomfortable asking like without raising a hand or if the class is not qiuet. My body just stops i dont know why. I want to get more comfortable and I want to be more loud and social. I triedmany times but I just can‘t. Also when I switched school, I told myself: In the new school nobody knows you so you can just be a loud guy all of a sudden. But that didnt work either. I just cant. Even if I tell myself no one cares, you shouldnt care, you live only once… and I carr too much what other people think. And also im not really social like I can talk hours with friends that I know since longer but as soon as im in a party or in the club or even in school, I just dont know what to talk about with other people. Many just say: say whatever comes to your mind but nothing comes to my mind and I have no idea how to start a conversation with a stranger.
So what im asking is how can I become louder and more social and more comfortable with other people.
Thank you