hi everyone!! my younger sister (18) and my mom (44) are super stubborn and fight CONSTANTLY. it’s always my sister instigating and she blames my mother for every little inconvenience in her life. the thing is, my sister has depression and an inferiority complex that results in her victimizing herself all the time. my mom, on the other hand, is absent minded and runs multiple businesses so she isn‘t really around much.
as a family, we’re pretty well off; i never had to work outside of our businesses, and my tuition and rent are fully covered. my sister is in the same boat, my mom funds her entire lifestyle. despite this, my sister is super ungrateful. she escalates things very quickly and turns every conflict into proof of mistreatment. literally everyone in my household walks on eggshells because of her.
my sister, on the other hand, has stated privately that she feels like our mom doesn’t love her, and loves me more. even when nobody is explicitly comparing us, i think she feels a pressure to live up to everyone’s expectations. she has also stated that she simply does not love our mom, and doesn’t see her as a mother figure.
this has culminated in a huge argument with our entire family. long story short, my sister apparently said very mean things. in the heat of the moment, i told my mom to stop funding my sister because we’re essentially enabling her to do whatever she wants. so now, my mom has stated she’s not going to pay tuition for my sister next year. after i’ve spoken to some people about it, i’m unsure of her decision. due to a lot of factors, i think i'm prone to defending my mom, though i try to be objective during their arguments. i also dont live at home anymore, so this is all based on accounts that other people tell me (my aunt, grandma, other sister, etc).
what do you guys think? did i go too far? i would really appreciate an outsider’s perspective. thanks!!