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I (28F) have had Crohn's since I was 13 years old.

For the last 14 years I have struggled quite a lot with meds not working or no longer working. Right now not being able to work, because of the constant exhaustion. Honestly it feels like my time stood still since I was 20, and everyone has kept moving around me.

Recently I have thought about dating (never did), marriage and having kids. As a child I always thought that I would just randomly meet the right person. Get married at like 22 and have kids around 25.

However, nowadays I'm exhausted trying to keep myself alive. Dating feels like a chore (boring), just no interest in anyone. And when I think about whether or not I want kids, I just go blank. IDK if I actually want them or if that is just the "ideal" life I had envisioned for myself at a young age.

I only have one friend and she's also single, no kids. But she has quite a strong wish for kids. Even wants to be a single mom if she doesn't find the right person.

Sometimes I think that if I weren't so sick and tired that I would want to date, get married and have kids. But my body just doesn't let me. And I know that having a child in my situation is just a big NoNo on all fronts.

But I cannot shake the feeling that maybe one day I might feel better, with no exhaustion and regret not having kids.

Does anyone else have these thoughts?

Hello I 28F, have had Crohn's for around 15 years.

Whenever I get acute intestinal problems (aka the shits) I get this really specific feeling in my body.

I can only describe it like having a brick in my upper belly, which moves downwards as the cramps increase. Along with that I get this intense feeling of impending doom, like the world goes slower, I feel everything really intense, I start sweating, and have to keep completely still.

Once the "brick" feeling is in my lower belly the cramps usually stop for a minute or so. And that's when the really bad cramps start and I need to find a toilet ASAP.

I never heard anyone talk about this, does anyone else recognize this feeling.

Kind of like being caught doing something really bad and knowing there is no way out and your absolutely screwed.