Ex broke up with me after she crossed a boundary
Long story short, my ex broke up with me after I wanted to discuss her crossing a boundary.
We had a mutual boundary about going to the club or bar without each other. She wasn’t okay with me going without her and I wasn’t okay with her going without me. This was something we discussed and mutually agreed on.
One night, she texted me after hanging out with her friends all day to let me know she was going to the club later that night. She didn’t ask if I was okay with it, she simply let me know. This of course made me upset but I wasn’t surprised. At this point, her doing this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. The relationship was extremely draining, she constantly minimized me, and me feel like the issues I bring up didn’t matter.
I wanted to discuss the relationship and a potential breakup. She thought that the reason for breaking up wasn’t fair and felt blindsided. I ultimately decided that we can work this out. A couple days later she broke up with me.
Sometimes I feel like I’m at fault. I’ve been having trouble with guilting myself for what happened. However I don’t feel like I blindsided her. Her and I both knew that the relationship was draining for the both of us.
When she broke up with me, she kept on giving me false hope for the future. She said she wanted to leave the door open just in case we find each other in the future. That only hurt me
Any input is much appreciated.