Boyfriend (21m) girlfriend (20f)
This whole thing is long but long story short. I asked to see my boyfriend where he got really mad and was rude. Fair enough he had work in the morning but usually he doesn’t mind and I was near his house. Eventually he told me it’s because his sister doesn’t want someone like me in his house. The next day we had this whole argument that stemmed from that but I feel like now I did too much and I’ve pushed him away.
I just wanted to feel like he’d stick up for me and not let his family come in between us.
I was hurt at him saying how I wouldn’t be accepted and the things his sister thinks of me (really rude). I had said idk if (future talking) this is the type of family dynamic I’d want to marry into if they don’t accept me from now. He also asked if he thinks someone could treat me better and leave him, and I said well I know there’s other person that wouldn’t raise their voice at me like that. But that doesn’t mean I’d rather be with someone else. Lastly, I said idk if I want my boyfriend to have that quality of raising his voice at me (on ft). I don’t want that to be a habit in this relationship but now I’m scared because I wanted a break at first and a day or two has past where I was starting to feel better. Plus I had told a distance friend about it to get advice and she just said he needs to put boundaries in place with his sister.
When I tried to speak to him today he said he needed space like a day or two and encouraged me to take more because he needs to navigate and see what he wants. I just feel like maybe I overreacted in a way even though the issue was his fault first. I don’t want to lose my boyfriend but I feel like I already have. He told me we’re not breaking up and I don’t need to be upset or block him. But I told him I’m just preparing for it because I feel like he’s soft-launching one. He’s also said he’s been feeling way better and doesn’t have headaches anymore since we stopped speaking for around a day or so.
But all this stemmed from this sister of his but after the argument I feel like now it’s my fault even though I just didn’t appreciate being shouted at like that. It’s been 4 days since the day I asked to see him.
I would just like an opinion or advice on if I’m in the wrong. I’m just gonna respect his space and not contact him.