u/ClassicSignificant70

When my partner’s mom worked, there was a cat colony outside her job. She brought in several cats from it. We have had the task of rehoming them for the past year. We started this task because it’s a small apartment with several cats, several behavioral problems, and my partner’s mom is declining mentally due to dementia. With both of us working full-time, college, taking her to doctor appointments, everyday help, it’s too much responsibility and stress. We have been successful rehoming them besides one cat.
We have made 2 local Reddit posts, 3 Nextdoor posts, taken him physically into two shelters, and emailed two other shelters practically begging them to take him in and explaining that we are at a last resort and the circumstances. All for them to tell us to foster him and that they are full. (There is a cat issue in our city) We have also asked our own personal friends if they’re interested. But honestly I’d feel guilty pawning the cat off to a friend because he is not a good pet. You can’t walk up to pet him, he is extremely skiddish, does not get along with other cats, and the other night… while I was sleeping on the couch.. he made sin biscuits on me. He is a pervert on top of it all. He is attacked by our other cats while he tries to eat and use the litter box. Even though we have 24/7 dry food out, surplus of litter boxes, so many damn toys, have have done rounds of medication, there is marking and some kind of resource guarding/attacking in the house. For instance, yesterday I had taken a shower and left my towel in our room whilst changing. This morning after I grabbed the towel to dry my face after washing it only then to realize I wiped my face with a urine soaked towel.
I honestly believe he would also be happier outside the home. He only lives in one corner underneath a cat tree. He seems stressed, the other cats are stressed with his presence, and we’re also stressed with him here. I’m tired of my items being peed on and running to stop cat fights the middle of the night. But no shelters are taking him.
I found a cat colony behind a Walgreens with a huge patch of greenery I can see on maps. This way there are no busy roads with cars, not a residential area where he can be shitting on ppl’s cars, there’s still people nearby with a store that sells cat food, other cats with people feeding them. WIBTA to leave him with toys, a hut, and 40 cans of wet food? Never did I think I would be dumping an animal, but I also have never adopted an animal myself without knowing they would have the best long term care. Since he was originally feral, still acts like it, could it be considered a TNR with a prolonged period in between?