u/Classic-Day7146

i’m 19F and met 2 of my good friends 19M 18F (i’ll call D and Z respectively) in uni and we became a trio. D and Z live in the same flat which is how they knew each other, and i’m on the same course as D. D introduced me to Z and we hit it off very well. soon enough we became a trio and i hung out with them quite a lot.

jump to mid february and i find out D and Z were dating starting from very early february. no worries, that’s not going to affect the friendship i have with them. as long as they’re happy why should that matter.

i’m not really happy anymore though. i know that they will prioritise each other over me and will hang out more since they’re dating, but good lord i am hearing about how they’re always together every fucking day because they also live in the same flat. like i’m only a second thought to them now.

and when i DO visit they’re immediately hopping on each other before i’ve even left the room to go back to my own accommodation. it makes me feel like i was just bend a hindrance.

them being in a relationship isn’t their fault at all. i love them both a lot and i am really happy for them as they are quite a cute couple. but i feel so selfish being upset hearing about all the shit they do together every single day while im a second thought to them. again i understand that but idk why im feeling so selfish about it

apologies about this rant i’m a little drunk and insanely upset at how sex and romance driven every person around me is in life.

in secondary school i was in a fg where none of us ever talked abt any dating lives. i was aroace and so was someone else, one person never talked abt it and my bsf has a girlfriend whom she rarely talks about anyway other than lik. oh yeah me and my gf went blablabla

now im in university and j love my friends but everything is about sex or romance with these people. like “oh i got so many people on hinge” or “oh im so excited to go on a date wit this guy” or the fact i recently found out the other two in a trio im in are dating and ive basicslly been third wheeling them and that “you might be slow if i didnt catch on that they liked each other”.

im not blaming them for. their lives or anything like im happy for them and all but it just keeps getting shoved in my face. it’s not the feeling of “i wish i wasn’t aroace” cuz i never felt like tha and i love myself for who i am. it’s the whole schtick of romance and sex just being everywhere in my life atm and i can’t just be like. hey. stop. i just feel so left out but i would never change my sexuality if i had the choice.

it just feels so lonely being in such an environment when im used to romance and stuff never being talked about bae my bsf and her girlfriend