My 35M partner seems to care more about me working than my health 31F
Throwaway account because I don’t want this found by anyone I know. I wanna know if this seems normal or if he’s lacking empathy and I need to seriously reconsider this relationship.
I’ll preface this with saying that I have missed work often due to medical reasons/medical reasons for my mom. Every absence is covered and protected by FMLA and he is aware of this. Last January (2025) I gave birth to our second child. I had a lot of complications and ended up having to be out of work for an extended time due to my uterus prolapsing. I returned to work in June 2025 and was put on light duty until around January 2026. It is also worth mentioning that I have crippling anxiety and depression so I have an intermittent leave for whenever I need to take off time due to panic attacks, stress, anxiety. It is a limited number of days I can take off for this. In January of 2026 my mother was hospitalized and I ended up taking a week off when she got out to care for her. She has undergone procedures since then and has a surgery coming up where I’ll need to take 3 weeks off of work.
All this information is important only because I want the full picture that I haven’t been working many hours because of the issues that have been happening.
The issue came up this morning. At the end of my shift, I felt intense pain from my groin. I felt like I was going to pass out. I went home 30 mins early and asked him to take care of the kids and explained my pelvic floor was in a lot of pain and I needed to lie down. He kept telling me I needed to go to the hospital but I have been to the er for pelvic floor pain last year when I was dealing with this just to be told I need to consult my obgyn. I so I told him I was waiting for the office to open up to make an appointment.
I made an appointment for tomorrow to see my obgyn as that is the quickest they can see me. I told my partner this and he replied with nothing but “but what about work? You work tomorrow?” Mind you, we aren’t loaded but we can easily afford me missing work tomorrow. He didn’t ask me once if I needed anything, if I was feeling better. Didn’t check on me or anything. I asked him why he would ask that and why he wasn’t concerned with what was going on. He said “well you are missing work a lot and we could really use the money” we have savings put up and not to mention he makes good money and we can easily afford me missing.
I can’t walk right now without feeling like I am going to pass out and possibly prolapse again. Is this a lacking empathy issue or is he justified because of how many days I’ve missed?