u/ClandestineEfforts

So this is a new account since my other Reddit account has more personal info in it. Thanks for allowing this post to be here.

I’d typed up a whole sum-up of our finances to post in this group, because I love your analysis on those. Maybe I’ll do that still.

But the issue is . . .

We are technically CoastFIRE for 55 (I’m 43 now) and likely BaristaFIRE in 6 years if we keep our finances the way we are in the house we’re in.

But we have little kids - 8 & 5. My spouse and I are dreaming of moving to an area that would allow us to have 5 acres in the woods, maybe have a few horses (my dream), and a mini homestead for us all to have in this season.

If we could make the money work, does it make sense? We would be living far more lean, pushing back FIRE dates, and the horse property will likely be harder to sell down the line.

We setup everything to be profitable and financially smart right now. This is the lifestyle creep that we could pull off, but is far riskier on paper, that I’ve gotten used to not wanting to do.

Am I being dumb?
When the kids are in college, this moment will be gone. They won’t have this frolicking on a mini farm opportunity.

FWIW, I had this as a kid and my spouse did not.
We are tired now already, and we know that the mini farm work is also tiring in a whole new way. That’s a whole other discussion.

Thoughts?

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u/ClandestineEfforts — 8 days ago

Does anyone have some specific things I can try? I’m so burned out from task avoidance for my work that I am just over. I can do other things like taking care of laundry and getting my actual calendar-obligated items done.

But stuff in my inbox is just nuking me.
I can’t quit my work. I work for myself and my work is actually great, I’m just burned out from it.

I always just want to take naps but it’s not actually about sleep - it’s about avoidance.

I’m on meds and they don’t help with this.

I also can’t take a vacation.
We have 2 little kids and they are just a lot.
We also can’t leave them behind with family at this point for a few reasons. I’m just in the mucky time that I should be appreciating but I’m just always in a guilt cycle.

The guilt cycle makes me super tired.
I’ve tinkered with my med mix but it isn’t helping me past this part.

I’m in a slump and hyper fixating that we just need to move and have a change of situation but, for right now, it's another form of avoidance.

Give me all the tips. TIA

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u/ClandestineEfforts — 8 days ago