Hey ya'll. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 month now, we fell madly in love since the first day we met, things went pretty fast and we ended up moving in about 3 months into us dating, that's a story for another day though. I'm still happy with that decision.
Our second date together we were both very honest about our past, he mentioned to me that he was still legally married but has been officially separated for 2 years moved out and all that.
Since we first started speaking I didn't wanted to stress on it too much because we both have a past but now that we've been together this long it really has been weighing on me.
His reasons on why has stayed married throughout this time: (plans on divorcing eventually)
He's on her insurance, (she works for the government)which he gets medication for his ADHD, + sees a therapist and Psychiatrist, has an auto-immune disease (ulcerative colitis) so he needs constant healthcare, he will not have insurance after divorce, unless he pays for one monthly. He's a business owner of a restaurant and he's told me that insurance will be really expensive and nearly impossible for him. He comes from a wealthy family but claims non of them have insurance due to how expensive it is and how they have to pay everything out of pocket.
They bought a house together that still legally has his name, and he said one of their deals after divorce is that she can pay him back for the house by keeping him on her insurance since he left the property for her.
Said marriage helped them qualify for the house, so im assuming he doesn't want to remove himself right away in order for her to stay?
They own another property together, don't really know their stance on that.
He's told me they have a prenup and have already discussed on who's keeping what but nothing has been done. I'm nervous about him not having healthcare but I also don't know how to be okay with someone I love being legally married to another woman. They don't speak to each other unless it has to do with some property or the divorce itself, but im starting to question everything at this point.
I get the idea that they're more business partners, and they still want to benefit off of each other somehow by being married but it just gives me the ick. Makes me uncomfortable and insecure. He's apologized a million times and has given me a time frame for when he hopes for it to all be done. I knew to an extent on what I was getting myself into but the deeper I get into this relationship with him being married the more resentful I feel. I'd love to hear some of your guys insight. Thanks reddit.