This is a throw away account because I don’t want family to find it.
For some background I’m (f26) the oldest of three sisters. I will call my sisters by fake names May (23) and July (21). Usually we are very close although somehow I picked up being the responsible one of us three and the two always come to me first with problems.
I started working after school right away, no university and I live a comfortable live so far. My sisters started university after school, so they can enjoy being young longer (their words). In our country university is nearly free with just a small service fee (think about 20$ per semester). Also our parents pay for living arrangements for them. So university is just party for them, maybe taking one or two examens/semester.
The problem starts with them having freedom and enjoying that – with boys. No shame here, they are young. May has a boyfriend and July is “having boys over a lot”. The problem is, in the last year, both got pregnant. July two times, May once. Every time they came to me, we talked and they said they weren’t ready for a baby. So I went to the doctors with them and paid for the abortion. Not a big deal (although it seemed like a lot for both of them. Not because of guilt or the fetus they got removed but because of shame and embarrassment) you can do stupid things, yes and thankfully it is allowed in our country till a certain point (please no discussion about abortion in general).
After the first pregnancy I talked with July about bc (she also heard the same from our mom when we were teens and as well in class) and protection. I even offered to pay for birth control pills, because she said she couldn’t afford it. No, she didn’t want to take those, because she would get fat. I bought condoms for her, I think they are still in the closet never used.
I also talked to May about the same stuff. Offered her also to buy bc stuff. She took the money and partied. When I found out, she said she is careful and she and her boyfriend are doing the pull-out method – unless they are really in the mood, then it is risk. No matter what I told her, it was like talking to a wall.
Now July is pregnant again. And I just don’t want to pay for that anymore. I don’t want to be their plan B because they are not able to use protection, because they are too embarrassed to buy condoms. Because they don’t think. But on the other hand, I know July can’t be a mother yet. And in the end the baby would end with me (I don’t want children yet) or my parents. The father is not known (July told me it could be three different guys and one she just know by the name Mike, nothing else). I really don’t want a child to suffer because their mother was irresponsible. But I don’t want to encourage them that I will help them every time.
July can’t afford an abortion by herself as she is bad with money and it is not covered by insurance (unless it is a health risk for the mother).
So AITA for not wanting to pay for this abortion?