u/Civil_Jellyfish1246

Hey friends. I just made a batch of coconut sago the other day... And its so gross. It tastes almost alcoholic, even immediately after making. Did I do something wrong? I wanted to like it so bad but I just couldn't get past the aftertaste. None of the ingredients by themselves tasted weird so I'm not sure what happened. Help?

Ingredients:

2 cans of coconut milk

1 can sweetened condensed milk

1 jar of nata de coco, drained

1 can of young coconut meat, drained

1 cup of small tapioca pearls

Hey friends. I'm a SAHM, 4m postpartum from a pretty traumatic labor + c-section. I have a wonderful son who is high needs/super passionate and screams pretty often. He hates sleeping, he eats like food is going out of business, and he gets overstimulated pretty quick. All of my time is spent keeping him calm honestly. It's hard for us to put him down for a nap because he tends to false start, even if we put him down once he's in deep sleep.

Lately I have been noticing my husband attempting to initiate sex, but it is literally the last thing on my mind. I can't stop thinking about if the baby is crying, what laundry needs to be done, if I need to be tidying something up, if we're gonna be making dinner or ordering out, etc. It is a nonstop cycle of "I'm responsible for this tiny life plus a bunch of other things and I can't stop to rest". I also breastfeed so I'm chronically touched out and can't even deal with a cat laying next to me because I never really get my body to myself anymore (this also means during sex I'm trying to avoid leaking everywhere, lol)

I don't know what to do. I feel really bad that I have no interest in sex. It's not for a lack of trying, I truly do try to flip into me mode instead of mom mode, and my husband is very attractive so somewhere in my brain the want is there, it's just not happening to the rest of my brain. To add on to that, sex HURTS, my back is still fucked from my 2 epidurals that failed, I have no ab strength so changing positions is embarrassing, AND I just got my Mirena at 12 weeks so I'm spotting constantly which makes me feel grody. I don't want to like, force myself into it, because I mentally am checked out and don't want to just do it for my husband, but it's been a few weeks and I can tell he's frustrated.

Any tips? Ideas? Sos