I 19F and my boyfriend 19M have been dating for just about 7 months , we’re committed to only each other and both have a lot of trust towards the other person so this has nothing to do with lack of trust or fear of disloyalty.
When in a relationship i genuinely believe that it’s pretty standard to remove girls especially previous love interests & also random girls that you have no connection with.
He has around 10-15 girls on his instagram, but they’re all people he went to college or university with or was a mutual friend, therefore i feel this is completely reasonable.
However on snapchat he has hundreds of random girls from all over the country that he’s never met or even spoken to , which to me feels completely unnecessary and makes me a little bit uncomfortable which i’d expressed a couple times throughout the relationship , to which he would always say that they were just sitting there doing nothing and it would take a long time to remove them all which was somewhat understandable, but i still had hope that he’d go through and remove them for me as he knew how it made me feel.
I brought it up again more recently , to which he made a comment about how many guys i have on my instagram despite them all being ones i went to school with or actually knew personally , but regardless i knew i couldn’t expect him to remove the girls without me being somewhat willing to go through and remove the guys.
I decided to go through my instagram to reduce my following down to a smaller circle while also removing any guys , especially as i feel if i’m willing to do this maybe he’d be willing to do the same thing so i told him what i was doing hoping he’d follow my move and do the same.
I had explained to him how i felt about the girls and how id much prefer if he removed them , and he kept making me feel as this wasn’t a real or valid reason , but regardless he eventually went through and removed them but it felt so insincere as he complained about how long it took , and he only did it after i continuously said and pretty much pleaded.
I had a conversation with him about how this is something that’s considered bare mininum to me , and it’s something that he knew i felt uncomfortable with throughout our whole relationship and he should’ve made the change as soon as id shown discomfort, not seven months later after multiple conversations about how it made me feel, especially afterwards how he made me feel like i forced him into it and that it was a waste of time.
His responses range from “i know” “okay” or “ i’m sorry” which i guess is somewhat acknowledgment for his wrongdoings and my feelings but it’s not a real heartfelt apology to me and i can’t accept that.
UPDATE: supposed to see him tomorrow and he wants to talk about this in person although i feel like ill just be repeating the same exact points , and he’ll probably have the same response.