I (22F) want to preface this post by saying that I love my AP and they have given me a very privileged upbringing. They have generally less strict expectations of me compared to most other AP, which I'm grateful for. Yet I routinely have difficulty getting along with my mom because of her attitude towards literally anything and it's just been really draining to get along with her at times.
Recently I went on a trip to my cousin's (mom's niece) destination wedding in Italy. My mom decided not to go because she'd just gotten back from spending 2 months in China where she'd gotten a bit sick and she was pretty tired of traveling. I was happy to go alone since it gave me an excuse to take a small trip. When I got back from said wedding, my mom asked me about it. I told her the food and venue were lovely and I had a great time. I was excited to show her pictures of the venue (small countryside villa in Tuscany) but her immediate response was to scoff because it was 'nothing special' and criticized my cousin for choosing to hold the wedding in Italy. She said it was no different than if they just had an outdoor wedding at home. When I showed her pictures of the food, she began making fun of the presentation of the food and stating that Europeans just liked to pretend their food had substance by putting it on a big plate. She also disliked the fact that dinner and the ceremony were outside.
My cousin chose to get married in Italy because Tuscany was significant in her relationship with her husband. I thought my mom would at least have something nice to say like 'oh what a beautiful location', be interested in the activities and dishes we ate, or just be happy for her niece. But instead she complained about a trip she didn't even go on. This happens all the time when I attend some kind of event or come back from traveling and it's really disheartening because she never has anything nice to say.