u/Cirbywithaknife

I'm 17f and I've genuinely never had a crush 😭 I find people attractive and stuff but I've never like been like "eeek I wanna date that person" (idk how it goes bear with me) is that weird or smth bc all my friends have had one

How does it feel to have one?? Should I like try to have one or something 💔💔

For context I do wanna date someone and I'm not aro (I think) or asexual

I posted this in a different sub too so if you saw it there don't mind it lol I'm just tweaking RN and I need opinions 🥹✌️

I really hate skirts and dresses

I'm a girl (17) and I stopped wearing skirts around middle school. My parents let it slide then bc it's was "just a phase' but now that I'm this age they've started yelling at me to wear them, making me only want to wear them less. One of the main questions they always yell at me is "why don't you like skirts and dresses" and it's a question that I don't really know the specific answer to. I just really really dislike wearing them, from the way they're made to the way they feel on me. I think it's stupid that I even need to have a reason. People can dislike carrots for any reason and nobody questions that. I think their main reason is that I'm not " feminine" enough. Fairly enough, after all I am a tomboy with an older brother who usually just wears sweats and occasionally jeans. I'll admit, for a while (14-16) I had been in an actual phase in which I wouldn't dress probably even with pants and would wear something not fit for a function I would be going to. I would refuse to wear big earrings, nice shoes, or my makeup. Now I'm fine with all that (though I still prefer light (but now dangly and better looking) earrings and am only now starting to learn light makeup (not for school ofc) though I am still pretty uncomfortable with leaving my hair down for reasons from when I was much younger (another long story)). Mentioning school, I think that's also added onto it. I wake up \~6 Am every morning for school in which I am in advanced classes, and on the rare occasion my parents drop me, they might see someone else who is dressed comparibly nicer that how I am, but the thing is, I don't have the energy nor motivation to do all that. All of that goes into my classes. But I think their main reason is that I'm not "feminine" enough. They expect me to dress up and be "beautiful" when my brother can go out in a nice top, jeans, and sneakers/MAYBE dress shoes (same w/ my dad). To that same place, I'm expected to wear a FULL nice outfit with jewelry, heels, etc. I think it's stupid. Why do I need to be dressed up like a doll when they can go out in jeans?? According to them, "because women have more options and should make use of them" (referencing outfits). Of course, by now I've begun trying to accept this double standard of dressing since almost all men do this. But that still leave the question of WHY A SKIRT OR DRESS?? Not wearing a skirt or dress will not make me any less feminine then I am. I can be feminine without that. I can still dress up without that. Even so, if I say that, they bring up how I do "nothing" in the house and never listen to them (which I DO, but will also admit, I don't do as much as I SHOULD, and majority of which I don't do I'm starting to do now.)

Me and my parents have been at this for 3 years and now that I'm on the brink of adulthood, I feel things are reaching the culmination. My parents are done yelling and are now just trying to force me to wear this stuff. I've grown though, and am now fine with wearing stuff they define as "feminine" (not for school ofc lol) but they don't believe that and continue to bring up times from when I was in middle school as proof of "me never listening." Not only that but they bring up society expectations of me needing to wear a dress to any events and such.

I feel like insane for not liking dresses and skirts since all my friends do rn, and I feel like I'm a horrible daughter when my parents bring up all that stuff I don't do or don't listen to them about and how they just want me to be pretty and fit into society. Am I just unreasonable and a bad or is ts kinda valid lol, what should I do?(sorry guys I'm tweaking out I'm writing this right after another fight about ts)

Tldr; I don't like dresses/skirts, but my parents want me to bc I'm not "feminine enough" (I think). Am I being unreasonable? What do I do?