u/CipherAlive

I'm still not sure how to deal with my explosive roommate

Everything that goes even remotely wrong in his life becomes everyone's problem

Something's going wrong with his car? Boom, he makes it everyone's problem.

He didn't sleep well? It's your problem now, and you better not speak..... period.

He's out of vape juice and can't afford more? You bet you're gonna get yelled at, and he's gonna rage around the house until someone buys him some.

He forgot to eat and his blood sugar is low? Well you better find him something to eat, because he's gonna make it your problem until you do.

He wants me to move out with him, and I don't really think I want to anymore. We had originally planned on it, but due to recent issues, I've decided not too

I have to take almost all my phone calls outside, because he's not above bursting into my room to yell at me if he's having a bad day, or if he doesn't like what I'm saying.

He can't keep his mouth shut to save his life, and is getting kicked out at the end of the because he got into a yelling match with the landlady's kid and his girlfriend

I tried to tell him I want to just move out and live on my own, as I've never done it before, and need the space to grow and flourish on my own. He tried to gaslight me into thinking I don't make enough at my medical tech job to do that. And I do make enough.

He's legit upset that I'm trying to save my marriage with my wife ,who's been in an extended mental health hold since March, due to her own PTSD episode.

He says I don't appreciate him enough,and that I'm insanely ungrateful,because I'm not telling all my friends,my wife and my family about every single nice thing he does for me and the household

He's allowed to yell at everyone, berate them, and tear them down, but heaven forbid they try and stand up for themselves, because if they do, they're "tone policing" him, and trying to control him

I got into a fight with him a few days ago, and admittedly said some things I shouldn't have, When I went to apologize, and own up to what I did, he dragged me through the mud for every single small thing I've done wrong to him in the last week. And said I was only apologizing to get sympathy and feel better about myself . He then lit into me because no one reached out to him to see if he was ok. But he fully admits he didn't try and reach out to anyone.

Everytime something goes wrong for him, he hints at suicide or says his PTSD is getting triggered.

I'm not sure what to do with this man anymore.

I love the guy to death as before he moved in he was an amazing friend., but I don't want him as a roommate anymore, nor do I want to be living alone with him

Can someone please help me or talk to me right now? I feel like I'm going nuts

I'm not entirely sure what to do with my roommate here

He's generally a decent guy, and is an amazing friend when he tries.

But as a roommate, he's deplorable.

He claims to be a bit of a germaphobe, due to working as security in a homeless shelter, and got at me for placing my Uncrustable on a counter I had wiped down a day or so ago.

But he has dishes galore stacked all over his desk and dresser areas, consisting of several cups, bowls and plates. Some with food,sauce or liquid still in them. And he leaves them there for days.

And there's a huge stack of garbage under his desk, that the dogs keep getting into and munching on. He keeps yelling at them to quit, and keeps commenting on how he needs to clear dishes and garbage out of his room, but he still doesn't.

You also can't see the tile floor in his room due to it being covered in dirty laundry and clothes. And it's not like he doesn't have a closet or dresser to put them in. He has two absolutely beautiful hard wood dressers in his room and a decently sized closet.

He also swears up/down/left/right that my wife is gonna send a lawyer after him, due to an already dropped court case that occured in February. They got into a fight, she got admitted to the VA hospital in our city, and is still there under an extended inpatient stay, for her own mental health. She wants to just let it go and move on, but he keeps saying she's gonna screw him over.

I'm not entirely sure how to deal with him, as trying to talk to him about almost anything that would even remotely upset him, makes him lecture me like I'm a child,or explode like I've threatened to slap his mother.

He's already getting himself kicked out at the beginning of June for getting into a heated verbal argument with the landlady's kid and his girlfriend, whom we also live with.