u/Cielphantomhive0

UPDATE: Thank you everyone, truly. I was waiting until Wednesday to see what my therapist had to say but I was heavily dissociating and knew I needed advice sooner. He has been blocked everywhere.

I already know that age gap is wild, and many friends warned me against starting something. We met in October and I finally managed to tell him I had feelings two days ago. When we were friends, there was obviously flirting and he was so sweet, and that is what I fell for.

Fast forward to now, two days ago after a conversation going very flirty, I finally admitted to having feelings and wanting to move to the next step. I told him I wanted to get to know him more and see where things could go. For context, I’ve only been in one relationship before when I was 14 and it did not last very long. He agreed, and I was super giddy.

Day one, and suddenly he is overtly sexual. Every other sentence that comes out of his mouth is something sexual about my body. What he wants to do, what he wants me to do. Even while playing games, he finds a way to try to make everything overtly sexual. What went from casual flirting is suddenly just sexting. I’m new to the dating scene and so I go along with it. He’s sending me reels about how badly he wants me to send nudes, see my boobs or butt. He sexted me last night and told me halfway through he was touching himself and hinted at him wanting me to send a video of me moaning. It was 2 am and I was tired so I just pretended I fell asleep.

Yesterday, we played Fortnite together and he gifts me an emote of someone being on their knees, and how he would love to see me on my knees. He texts me today this morning and I ask how his day is going. He says it’s going well because he is hard so he must have been thinking about me while sleeping. (I didn’t find this attractive, it’s morning wood, I’m not a dumbass)

I had to go fix my tire as it had a nail in it so I told him I was going to do that and he told me good luck. That was the last text he sent and it’s been 7 hours, just text him when I’m down to hang out. No how was my day going, did I fix the tire, or sending me reels. I just want to have normal conversations and get to know him, like what’s his favorite color before I know every kink of his. He doesn’t even know my favorite flower.

I feel like a piece of meat, a sex doll, a flesh light. He wasn’t like this when we were friends. It’s been two days. I don’t want to hurt him because I sexted as well because I wanted him to feel good but I’m not enjoying this. Is this Salvageable? Is this something that can be fixed with communication? I know that I should be communicating with him about my feelings but I’m unsure about how to bring it up. I’m afraid to talk to my friends because they will just say I told you so. I just feel so stuck. I miss my friend.