Fiance M27 demands I change my last name F26
What colour my wedding dress should be and changing my last name?
My fiance and I have two kids together already. He has said that I NEED to wear white at our wedding because if I wore any other color, it would signify that I'm not a virgin in nicer terms.
I have always been goth and wear black often. I've always dreamed of a goth wedding and wearing a black wedding dress. He said I can't and I can wear an "off white" instead. He has also said that I have to change my name to his last name. Our kids have his last name but I also need to have it too. I've explained to him that I actually like my last name and don't want to change it.
He told me there was no point in a wedding then and what I wanted would just be a picnic. He said that the only things a wedding are is "changing the name, white dress and saying I do" he keeps saying that I need to compromise but it feels like he wants me to change.
This has been a larger issue. He has told me to remove and stop stretching my ears, to wear more colours, stop wearing corsets and stuff. I told him that I feel like I have to repress myself and tone myself down around him but he says I'm over reacting and I have to compromise and consider what he likes and is attracted to. It's really been hurting my feelings a lot.
So reddit, All advice is wanted. Thanks